I was chatting to a now pg IF friend of mine, telling her that one of the hardest things about being a new mom is that I have no idea if what I am doing is right. I am so scared that in one, two, five or ten years time I was going to say ‘I wish I had never ….. (co-slept / demand fed / fed on schedule / smacked / not smacked / rocked to sleep etc). Am I being too soft, too hard? Not strict enough? Etc etc.
I am so scared I am inadvertently making a terrible mistake, one (or several) which I will sorely regret later. (Little niggling fear about letting them go to sleep in my arms before putting them down, but cant seem to find alternative).
As we spoke about a while ago, one of the losses of the modern world is that new mothers are no longer surrounded by communities of experienced mothers, grannies, aunts etc who would provide this advice and support.
Luckily one of the great spin offs of the Internet is that we are able to provide some semblance of this in the form of virtual communities, like bulletin boards, blogs etc.
So dear experienced mothers, aunts and grannies, I am looking to you as my virtual community, your collective words of wisdom are once again required:
If you look back now (one month, one year, 10 / 20 years down the line), what do you wish you had not done? What / how could I learn from your mistakes?